I also wanted to talk about something that's been on my mind since the weekend. On Saturday night my fiance and I had plans to go to our 'couple besties' house for games and a glass of vino (or two;) but it just so happened that my man worked over an hour later than he was supposed to. I waited for him like any good woman may, but he ended up getting an invite from his new work buddies to stop for a drink on his way home (and he just started a new job), so he did. After I waited for two hours for him to finish work, he phoned me to tell me that he would just meet me there because of the invite. I was kind of frustrated but knew in his position I would do the same. This served as a great reminder for me that it's important even when you're in a loving relationship, to just do you. I shouldn't have waited, I wanted to hang out with my friends, so I should have just went with the flow, instead of pacing around waiting for my man to lead the way.
This has been a long lesson for me, I settled down and had children really young, and with that came putting myself aside, I have no regrets and I love my life, and I am so lucky to have found such a loving and supportive mister (especially on this journey to health and fitness, and quite frankly I might not be where I am without), but on this journey to figuring out who I really am and where my passions lie, I've really learnt that if i'm happy, everything falls into place.
You should never put your own plans or life on hold in the wait for somebody else. You can love them, and miss them, but at the end of the day, you're number one. Maybe that sounds a little bit selfish, but what I mean by that is that I truly believe that when you do you first, the rest will come naturally! Maybe this is the key to a happy and fulfilling life. That's not to say you shouldn't do nice deeds for somebody else, it's good for the soul to make others happy, especially those you love, but you can't neglect yourself, or living your own life, or chasing your own dreams, in lieu of those things.When I strive to be content with myself first, the rest of the good stuff falls into place. At the end of the day if you're aiming to be a 'better' person on the inside (and let's face it, the outside too) You shouldn't be doing it for anybody else. I'm doing it because it makes me feel good, and when I feel good, it shines into every aspect of my life. I think this is something we all have to think about, because it's really easy to get caught up in the moment and forget what you really want. If you have a dream, chase it, no excuses. I know that sounds kind of hokey, but it's so true.
This has been a long lesson for me, I settled down and had children really young, and with that came putting myself aside, I have no regrets and I love my life, and I am so lucky to have found such a loving and supportive mister (especially on this journey to health and fitness, and quite frankly I might not be where I am without), but on this journey to figuring out who I really am and where my passions lie, I've really learnt that if i'm happy, everything falls into place.
You should never put your own plans or life on hold in the wait for somebody else. You can love them, and miss them, but at the end of the day, you're number one. Maybe that sounds a little bit selfish, but what I mean by that is that I truly believe that when you do you first, the rest will come naturally! Maybe this is the key to a happy and fulfilling life. That's not to say you shouldn't do nice deeds for somebody else, it's good for the soul to make others happy, especially those you love, but you can't neglect yourself, or living your own life, or chasing your own dreams, in lieu of those things.When I strive to be content with myself first, the rest of the good stuff falls into place. At the end of the day if you're aiming to be a 'better' person on the inside (and let's face it, the outside too) You shouldn't be doing it for anybody else. I'm doing it because it makes me feel good, and when I feel good, it shines into every aspect of my life. I think this is something we all have to think about, because it's really easy to get caught up in the moment and forget what you really want. If you have a dream, chase it, no excuses. I know that sounds kind of hokey, but it's so true.
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