Facing Fears

In Calgary on my recent business trip, Brian, one of my team leaders, suggested I should lead a team Strength & Beauty Nation 'training' call. About a week and a half later FORCED me to set a date. I'm just kidding, I did so willingly.

In a team call, all of our teams are invited into a 'zoom' meeting (kind of like Facetime but with multiple people!) by the person who's hosting it (in this case ME) to listen to that particular coach talk about whatever it is they think the other coaches can learn from them. Though I'm a newbie I hit SC 14 my first month as a coach, and rank advanced to emerald in my first week- pretty big in the Beachbody world! So when Brian suggested it, I knew A) That I was terrified and B) That I had to do it. What an honor for one of your mentors to think the whole team could learn something from you! And you know my life motto...

Anyways, the call last night! For the last week and a half I went through all the stages one can expect when doing something outside of ones comfort zone - excitement - fear - denial - acceptance. haha. I wrote a speech, read it out (roughly, as if I was talking to real people out loud with point cards) then listened to the recording). Only by the day of the call trying to prepare just made me panic- I felt like I could not remember anything I had been memorizing. I decided to do as Stephanie does, and throw caution to the wind and just WING IT! Ironically enough, this was basically the baseline of my topic of choice- "The importance of acting like a top coach, and getting comfortable with being uncomfortable" Ie: "FAKE IT 'TILL YOU MAKE IT!"

I'm not going to go into the details of how I have been advancing my business on my blog, but I thought this topic was also relative to health, fitness, and all things in between!

In the present, I still consider myself to be shy. For the most part have learnt to 'shake it off'', though. I have learnt fake confidence is just as good, if not better than real confidence. After all, a little bit of humanity shining through is OK! We all have our quirks. I have gone through so much uncomfortable things in my life! When I was 18 and my daughter was first born I pretty much didn't even know how to cope with a crying baby in a grocery store. All things scared me. Like i'm not talking a little bit of anxiety. I suffered from full blown, debilitating social phobia. Everything scared me. Just leaving the house was a chore for me and I avoided it at all costs. I lived in a shell. Numerous trials on anxiety medications, which was traumatic in itself, because my biggest fear of all was going to the doctor, brought me no alleviation of my fears. I came to terms with the idea that my life would be like this forever. I thought I was a broken girl.

Then the most horrible and amazing thing happened. I got pregnant with my daughter (Summer) and due to a high risk pregnancy, would spend the next 8 months in and out of the hospital, in and out of ultrasounds (3-4 times a week). This was traumatic. Every time I had to go to these places, this fear would bubble, and my heart would race, and I couldn't breathe. I probably would have avoided it if it had an option, but the health of my baby forced me way out of my comfort zone, over and over to face my biggest (mostly irrational) fears. The crazy thing? As the months went on, my anxiety faded away. The hospital, my most dreaded place, became a uncomfortably, comfortable routine.

When Summer was born I was blessed with two gifts- her survival, and my healed anxiety. I kind of feel like being in such a high risk situation saved my life, and after you go through months of being scared and helpless everyday, the little things in life are still scary, but you realize you're strong enough to conquer.

That's how my life mottos were born:

-FAKE IT 'TILL YOU MAKE IT
-YOLO - you only live once

If your scared of something, that's ok, in fact its great. It just means your ALIVE! Live for your heart racing, learn to be comfortable with it! The more you push outside of your comfort zone, the easier it will be to do the crazy things that you will look back on and be like 'wow, I did that!' instead of 'I wish I did that...' I think everybody is scared of life- awkward situations, being embarrassed, failing, but you have to find a way to quiet those voices and just scream YOLO in your head, jump in with both feet, and go for something crazy.

My challenge to myself, is to do all the things that terrify me. I love the feeling afterwards, when you are terrified, but you put self-doubt aside, and jump in with both feet, and do the impossible, it's an unbeatable adrenaline high! I think that's what life's about!:)

xoxoxo
Steph

Gluten Free (Chicken) Taco Salad

*Serves 4*

Ingredients:

4 cup romaine lettuce
1/2 cup finely chopped veggies (I used red bell pepper, red onion, and celery)

1 tbs avocado oil (or olive)
3 tbs rice vinegar
1 tbs fresh lime juice
1 tsp ground cumin
1 tsp ground chilli powder
1 small handful fresh cilantro, minced
splash of hot sauce (I used franks)
1/2 tsp sea salt (to taste)

4, 4oz chicken breast
4-6 tbs tajin seasoning

1 cup brown basmati rice
2 cups of water (or according to package instructions)
1tbs cumin
1tbs chilli powder
cracked pepper
1 tbs hot sauce
1/2 tsp sea salt

Serve with salsa (optional)

Method:

Preheat oven to 350C. Prepare basmati rice according to package instructions, adding cumin, chilli powder, cracked pepper, hot sauce, and sea salt to the water (usually brown basmati is one part rice 2 parts water, bring to simmer on high, then turn to low for 50 minutes). Wash lettuce, and set asside to dry. Rub each chicken breast generously in tajin seasoning, then place in a oven dish when the rice timer has 20 minutes left and bake uncovered for 30 minutes. While the rice and chicken cooks, whisk oil, vinegar, lime juice, chilli, powder, cilantro, splash of hot sauce, and seat salt. Chop veggies and place in the bowl on top of vinagrette, then chop the lettuce and put on top (don't toss until ready to serve!:) Toss the salad, and divide evenly onto serving places, then top each with 1/4 cup of  cooked rice, chopped chicken, and salsa (optional). Enjoy!:)

Beachbody Business in the City!

Last week I was presented with the amazing opportunity by my upline coach, Amanda, to travel with her and her husband (a long with a bunch of other ladies from our Beachbody team, Strenth and Beauty Nation) to Calgary! She invited me to go with her and Brian to attend animportant meeting with Jeff Mathewson on Friday, and then we went to work out with AUTUMN CALABRESE of the 21 Day Fix Extreme LIVE on Saturday with a bunch of other ladies from the team!

Initially I didn't think I would be able to make it as my fiance works out of town usually, and as a mom of two that lives away from family I didn't know what I would do with my children for 4 days on 2 days notice! That said, when I want something, I do whatever is in my power to get it. I ran around like a crazy lady trying to arrange it. Lucky for me I have the worlds MOST AMAZING friends, Lana, and Alicia, and they bailed me out and took turns babysitting them, and then my fiance took Saturday night off to cover that day. Since I had planned to book through airmiles and I couldn't book until last minute there ended up being no flights left to Calgary so I was forced to DRIVE. It's about 10 hours from where I am!

I left early Thursday morning! It was soooo long but to be honest, it was so awesome to get out on the road just me and my fancy new Nissan suv! I LOVE road tripping by myself. Lots of time to think and jam!

I am such a girl. I totally forgot to get gas in white court and realized that I didn't have enough to get to the next check stop and had to backtrack 20 minutes to get gas. OMG. I felt so dumb. OOPS.

When I got to Calgary I was SO excited! I booked a fancy room at the Delta Bow West, right downtown! I highly recommend it. The restaurant and bar downstairs was so nice and YUMMY, and they even had a grande piano player, AND a full Starbucks in the lobby (which was like heaven to this coffee connoisseur).  I met Amanda and Brian at the Core, after parking my vehicle in the HSBC underground parking, which took us 5 blocks in the wrong direction (AND back) to later find. Country peeps in the City, that's how we roll.

The meeting with Jeff was awesome, just listening mostly for me, but I learnt so much! Since I want this to be my career I am so grateful I had the opportunity to meet him!

On Saturday morning we went to the live workout at the Telus Convention Centre, it was SO exciting! Such an amazing experience! If you ever get the opportunity to attend a live Beachbody workout DO IT! The success stories at the beginning actually brought me to tears, specifically Travis Kucheran's. Follow him on Facebook. He is one of the most inspirational people I have had the pleasure of listening to. He used to be a homeless alcoholic, and now, only a few years later, a top diamond coach. Beachbody changed his life. His story is incredible. It spoke to me so much, as someone who personally struggles with alcohol moderation. After the success story speeches it was announced that if you find a golden ticket you get to meet Autumn! And guess who found one?! That's right, this gal. :D What a GORGEOUS woman!

Saturday after lunch with the team, Amanda, Brian, Steph and I went shopping downtown. Then they left and I went to walk back to my hotel, when I realized I DROPPED MY MASTERCARD OUT OF MY POCKET SOMEWHERE. Omg. I hope my fiance isn't reading this right now. Then, after backtracking to find it (and luckily I did) my phone died. No more GPS. Just a girl alone downtown in a city she's never been, trying to find her way back to her hotel. The adventures I find myself in. I ended up walking and chatting with a nice lady (who had no idea where I needed to go), then woila! I looked up and there was my hotel. Phew. I survived. Dumb luck.

That night we got all dolled up and went for dinner, and then went to Standard night club with some amazing ladies, handed out some business cards, then headed back to my cozy hotel bed to sleep in before my LONG journey home Sunday afternoon. I didn't get home until 11pm that night.

Thank you Beachbody, and an even bigger thank you to Amanda, for convincing me to take a risk. A couple months ago I wouldn't have imagined my life today. Already building some amazing connections and friendships, and an amazing adventure under my belt! Can't wait to see where this business takes me next.

xoxoxo
Steph

Confidence

I have to share one of the nerdiest things I have ever done. Since my business revolves around people, and human interaction I decided a few weeks ago it is my first priority to master the ART of confidence and communication. I was literally the shyest person in the entire world as a child. I couldn't even order my own food or phone my friends out of fear I would have to speak to their parent. No joke, that extreme (because you know, Stephanie does EVERYTHING extreme. Everything). When I became a teenager I learnt that I could overcome my fear of social situations with alcohol, and this new discovery, in it's own way, helped bring me out of my shell.

The other somewhat frightening thing (for me) about my mission to become confident with strangers, is that since I have made a promise to myself to abstain from alcohol for a whole year (46 days and counting). This year I am focusing on ME, my goals, and  not using alcohol as a band aid for my problems and social awkwardness anymore.

As an adult I'm not super shy- I'm actually kind of the crazy outgoing one when I'm in my own zone, or hosting my own party, or around my friends. I don't feel the extreme fear of social situations anymore. That said, something about being in public and striking up conversations with strangers, or talking to people I don't know at a party, is so scary to me. I've never been good at small talk. It's the weaknesses you KNOW are yours, that you need to work on the most.

So I have made it my mission to sit in public (like right now at a local coffee shop with my laptop) whenever possible. I am going to spend as much time out of my comfort zone, and around strangers as physically possible. The oddest thing that I've found over the last few weeks when putting this mission into action is that I actually ENJOY it. Who knew?  I have actually grown to love my time alone in public and talking to people I never would have before. The other odd thing is I think strangers can actually sense that I'm a happy and excited person, because lately everywhere I go, random people are talking to me.

The nerdy thing that I believe is the reason I have this newfound confidence I never knew I had..? Everday at 11 am. I have an alarm set to "Be Confident."

Yeah that's right.

Oh, and this: 

Nerdy, I know. 

30 Things happening before 30

1. Build a Business
2. Go  a year without alcohol in my life
3. Transform my life, and the lives of those around me in any way I can
4. Bungee jump
5. Run a 40 km
6. Read a lot 
7. Love bigger
8. Relocate (I need the ocean in my life)
9. Take a design course of some sort, I love it almost as much as I love fitness
10. Pay off my ridiculous car loan
11. Travel to at least one country i've never been
12. Sleep on at least 5 different beaches 
13. Conquer my shyness and fear of public speaking ('fake it 'till I make it in the mean time)
14. Reconnect with people I lost touch with
15. Get a tattoo
16. See Macklemore live
17. Go to Hornby with somebody I love, go nude
18. Spend time, not money
19. Get certified in some sort of group fitness activity 
20. Go to Disneyland
21. Go on a spur of the moment road trip to somewhere at least a few hours away for some length of time. Pack light.
22. Pack light. (yes, this one needed two numbers)
23. Master a cooky yoga-pose
24. Girls trip that involves all the things I loved about being 15 (like eating icing from a container, yeah, I said it) but with the luxuries of being grown up (like driving and ID's)
25. Say I love you
26. Go to a Bulletproof cafe, Drink coffee all day.
27. Learn to surf
28. Grow a garden
29. Let go of the past, and all the people in it that got left behind. Say i'm sorry
30. Smiles lines

Putting your aspirations into some sort of form you can see or feel, actually brings you closer to accomplishing them! keep your dreams, even the big ones, at the forefront of your mind ALWAYS. Nothing is too big, or out of reach!

Share your boards, or lists with me via email, or Facebook! I would love to see!

xoxoxo

Steph 

All things green! Spring Challenge, Emerald, and cleanses!

Hello again friends! Have I ever been BUSY!

I  have had such an AWESOME two weeks. So much to be happy and excited about. My first week as a Beachbody coach was busy and exhausting (to say the least) but I loved every minute of it. I actually was too excited to sleep and have been jumping out of bed at 5 am to get in my workout, and start my day. The early bird catches the worm, right?

Planning my first challenge has been a lot of work but I have honestly loved every minute of it! I am excited to welcome my first personally sponsored coach, and friend, Ashley (who introduced and did the Whole 30 diet with me) to our Strength and Beauty Nation team. This is HUGE in my first week of coaching. We are going to be a power team, just like we were in highschool English! I've been thinking about how funny it would have been then if we had a looking glass into the future! It's so funny how life works, and everything has a way of falling together. She will be co-coaching my first challenge and I am absolutely ecstatic to have her!



My challenge group starts February 23rd (Monday) and I actually managed to fill all 20 spots with some beautiful and determined women! I can't wait to see their transformations and be there day-by-day! Today I opened there challenge group for a week of prep assignments so everybody can be well prepared to have the best success!



I just started my second week of Insanity Max 30, and am already seeing an improvement in my max time! Which is incredible! I've tried almost every kind of workout under the sun, and I have honestly never worked so hard in my life. The first week I was as sore as I was after running emperors (a 20 km Mountain run!)

So much exciting things since becoming a Beachbody coach! I made EMERALD (my first big coach milestone, which is a huge deal in the BB world) which I was so happy about I actually cried tears of joy. I am so grateful to have such a wonderful and inspiring team leader to show me the ropes, and make sure I have the best training to provide my challengers with the best coaching I can possibly give!

This week I am also doing a 3-day Shakeology Cleanse with some of the ladies (and a gentleman) from our strength-and-beauty-nation team! Today was day one. Also I had to give up coffee, today was this first day in a long time I have gone without (And I normally drink it black anyways so to give it up completely for a few days feels too extreme) Anyways, I actually felt really energized all day! Hungry, but energized! This is unusual because i'm the biggest coffee addict I know. It's incredible how much ENERGY Shakeology gives you! I can't wait to see how clear and clean I feel at the end! By far my favorite cleanse so far (and I've done them all!)

Going to start my morning with some pre-work out organic-cucumber-orange-lemon-raspberry green tea in the morning! Can't wait! Stay tuned!

My next post will be FUN I promise!;)

xoxoxo
Coach Steph

Coconut Paleo Pie Crust

I pulled this recipe out of my archives, i'm sorry I don't have a photo to go with it, I will post one when I make again as soon as I can!

Ingredients

2 Tbs ground chia1/3 cup water1 cup unsweetened shredded coconut1/2 cup coconut flour (maybe a couple extra tbs if it seems to wet)2 tsp raw honey4 tbl cold coconut oil or grassfed unsalted butter (I used butter)2 tbl coconut oil + a little for greasing the pie dish

Method

Combine 1/3 cup of water and chia and allow to sit. I've used both my ninja and a mini coffee grinder combined with a hand mixer and both methods work well. You must grind the coconut flakes until the become the consistency of bread crumbs and starting to release their oils (you'll be able to tell when they start sticking to the sides of the bowl). Then start adding the rest of the ingredients and mixing, by the end the mixture should be almost like dough but still sticky. Press into a well greased (I used coconut oil and parchment paper) and bake on 300 for 20 ish minutes (watch the edges will burn easily). Cool before filling.

This recipe was adapted from another blog I follow and love.